Question: Help! My friend’s husband made a sexual advance … he called me, out of the blue, and started asking me these wierd sexual questions. My friend and I are not very close, I guess she’s closer to an aquaintance, but we are friendly, I like her, she’s a good person. I’m not at all interested in her husband.
Do I tell her?
Answer: You can tell her… you’ll probably be doing her a favor, because chances are, that if he is hitting on you, he’s hitting on other women, too. You run the risk that she’ll believe her husband and not you, and basically never speak to you again. Is she a work aquaintance? If so, you have to consider that she may disbelieve you and even worse, become angry and bad-mouth you to your work colleagues. Do you have common friends? You face the same possible situation.
You can choose not to tell her and simply avoid her husband, which may not be difficult, if you don’t associate much, with her and him, socially. Chances are, that she will eventually discover the character of her husband and when she does, she’ll need a supportive confidante.
We can’t tell you what to do with this difficult scenario… you have to search your heart and consider your relationship with your friend … we believe you will make the right choice.